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Money!!!!

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I came across the following question asked by someone in a social media group looking for sympathy and agreement, and even though I didn’t technically ‘have time’ that morning to write out an answer, I couldn’t NOT speak up.  So here is what that poor person (pun intended) would have read if I had posted my answer there, and not here instead:

Question:  “I’ve been working on finding out my “calling” and it seems to be
in personal development/health and wellness consultations, and/or sharing
assistance for others… Sometimes it’s just difficult for me to charge people
for my advice, because I feel that it should all be freely available…does anyone
else feel that way?”

Arrrrghgghhhhh!!! Just because lot’s of people have a lack mentality doesn’t mean it’s correct that everything of value be freely available!  Should the groceries you obtain at the supermarket be freely available?  What about the legal documents to set-up a business entity, should the attorney do that for free as well?  How about the rent you pay to live in your home, should the landlord make that freely available?

What is it about your own hard-earned wisdom (gained through education, training, reading, healing, and the school of hard-knocks/experience in life, as well as learning to channel your intuition clearly) that makes you think it has no value and should be given away for nothing, freely available?

Sure, a money-less utopia would be nice.  But that is not the reality of the world we live in at this time in history.  So stop bucking against reality, and start learning the very real worth of the knowledge you already have to share instead.  People value what they pay for.  Period.

Have you ever known of somebody who was given the gift of a new car when they were first licensed to drive, and then promptly crashed it right into a tree not long thereafter?  It is human nature to value, care for, and honor that which one has invested one’s own resources (time, energy, money) to obtain, and that includes YOUR services when they hire you as their coach or guide!

Stop it with this “freely available” $hit please!  YOUR wisdom is worth more than that!

Birthing YOUR Creative Genius!

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Last year on Mother’s Day weekend, I was a participant in a facilitated
Pranayama Breathwork group, and had an experiential vision of being held
and fully supported from behind in the ancient “birthing” position by
Mother Mary herself.  She was helping me to birth my gifts into the
world, my creativity; the work I do and the books I am writing, as my
babies…  I feel like I received my calling that day: As a Coach to the
Soul, a Spiritual Midwife, helping people to birth their own essential
creativity, their inner calling, their Divinely inspired contribution to
the world — to courageously connect with, and share, their own true
passion.

I was being called to support people, especially women (but men too)
who, like me, either haven’t had human children at all, who want
children but don’t yet have them, whose children are gone, or who have
trauma around being a child and need a second childhood themselves….

As the song Hallelujah was playing softly in the background, I saw
glimmers of all my friends who had recently died at that time, much too
young, and knew that to connect with one’s own passion, essence, and
full expression of creative genius (in whatever form that takes) and put
it into the world IS a matter of life and death.

I share this today to honor YOU, the childless mothers, the motherless
children, and all of us who are ‘mothers’ of creation itself.

What IS Spiritual Psychology?

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As you know from my ‘About Me’ page, I am a graduate of the University of Santa Monica’s master’s degree program in Spiritual Psychology.  The Master of Arts degree is no longer offered, but the university recently released a 3-min video that summarizes in one word what the experience of an education in Spiritual Psychology is like:

Mary likens the facilitation to that of highly trained midwives, helping you bring your heart’s desires into the world.  A Spiritual midwife is exactly how I would describe the work I do with clients as well, thanks in large part, no doubt, to my grounding and basis in Spiritual Psychology.

I KNOW that YOU ARE a precious and magnificent Divine Being with a creative genius in you, that only you can share.  I see my role as helping you to birth that knowing in yourself.

 

P.S. Though the woman in the video asking the question is named Andrea, that is not me.

P.P.S.  If you cannot see the embedded video, the link is: https://youtu.be/rGUXDt3vDrM

Perfect For YOU!

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It’s not that the terrible things in the world aren’t happening. It’s not that fascism isn’t potentially taking hold in the United States, that we aren’t possibly headed toward being ruled over by a dictator, or that there won’t necessarily be a civil war, or a world war, or another Great depression, etc…

It’s that whatever IS happening in your world, in some way, is the perfect environment for you to blossom into being who you are meant to be, somehow.

It doesn’t matter what’s going on, if it’s going on it’s the perfect situation for you –– the perfect situation for you to make the contribution you’re supposed to make.

I can only receive a message by sharing it

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You may have noticed by now that I am a student of A Course in Miracles. Yesterday, my lesson was #154: I am among the ministers of God.

That concept is not new to me, but I read something different in it yesterday that I never had before. It starts like this:

Let us today be neither arrogant nor falsely humble. …We cannot judge ourselves, nor need we do so. These are but attempts to hold decision off, and to delay commitment to our function.”

It goes on to say:

There is one major difference in the role of Heaven’s messengers, which sets them off from those the world appoints. The messages that they deliver are intended first for them. And it is only as they can accept them for themselves that they become able to bring them further, and to give them everywhere that they were meant to be.”

….The messengers of God perform their part by their acceptance of His messages as for themselves, and show they understand the messages by giving them away.”

I got the idea of ‘giving a message to prove I had received it or learned it’, but I didn’t fully understand the true meaning until I had lived it the other way around. That is, it was only after I had given an intuitive message I received to someone else, that I was then able to read it over again later, and realize that it was really for me too!

This is how it finally sunk in for me:  I’m a participant in a small group class, that was recently working on the idea of managing energy. In the groups’ discussion forum, a question was posed about “how to manage the energy to work when you’re exhausted” and how others are handling that issue, when physical or emotional exhaustion and burnout are a particularly sticky challenge for the members of this group.

One of my friends in the group, I’ll call her Lisa even though that’s not her real name,  posted this comment in the discussion thread that followed:

Lisa: I am using my class times and study times to see how my energy levels would stand up to running a practice. It may be a slow transition for me as I am being wise about it, because I don’t want to sabotage myself by jumping into something that I don’t have the staying power for over the long term, as my body has been sick for a very long time now. Though I feel so called to do this work that I am confident that I will find a way forward, just at a gentle pace that doesn’t cause everything to short circuit!

When I read her comment, I had an immediate intuitive response to it, and wanted to share the idea I’d had with her, but, in my role as a life coach who is VERY sensitive to not coaching without permission (invitation), I didn’t want to offer any unsolicited advice either. I decided to share my thought with her, knowing that I was offering it in a spirit of loving support and that she could take it or leave it, so long as I wasn’t attached to what was made of it. I wrote:

Andrea: Lisa, are you open to an intuitive hit I had while reading this comment you’d posted here? I wonder if starting your practice is the exact thing your body actually needs to NOT be sick anymore? That perhaps providing a channel for your profound gifts to flow through you and benefit others is the VERY thing you’ve been needing? Of course, starting gently as you’ve said, but healing by doing it. <3 (Heart)

The forum discussion went on, and ended up taking a number of different directions from there. But some time later, she wrote me a private message saying how helpful my comment had been for her, and that it was integral to a huge Aha! and breakthrough she’d had after reading it.

So, score one for me following inner guidance and sharing something potentially helpful with a friend when the intuition presents itself.

And, bonus points too: Score one more for sharing a message as the only way to realize that the content of the intuition is actually intended for me — I only recognize my connection to Spirit, and honor the messages that come through that connection AFTER I have shared them with somebody, somehow. Only then can I hear or know it myself.

No one can receive and understand he has received until he gives. For in the giving is his own acceptance of what he received.” ~Pg. 289, ACIM Workbook for Students

When I read back my own message that I had posted to Lisa, and heard it for myself instead, I had the new realization that perhaps I need to be giving more of MYSELF to MY own practice, sharing more of my voice, wisdom, and words with people, and the world, in order to heal what is ailing me?

  • My body isn’t as fit and healthy as I wish it were? ….Share more of my authenticity with the world.
  • I’m not making as much money as I want? ….Publish my book(s) and provide value to more people.
  • My heart is hurting from all the political strife in the country? …Tune-in to the spiritual truths I live by on my good days, and multiply them by helping to teach them to others.
  • I don’t have a reference point for Joy? …Share my intuitions with anyone I can, and feel that connection to God flowing through me.

After all, that is the only real source of Joy that I’m aware of.

Connection to Spirit

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A question was posed in the online forum for a group class I am a part of today, about knowing your connection to spirit, examples of tuning in to a higher power, and wondering about blocking that connection, or even knowing for sure what it is?

For me it’s a few things:

  1. Practice. I feel my connection to Spirit much more clearly when I am in a good habit of meditating every day, 15-30 mins, every morning before the world gets in the way. It also helps me to read spiritual books like A Course in Miracles, and watch inspirational videos like those from Matt Kahn, Rob Bell, Bashar, or Abraham-Hicks.
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  2. Noticing. Paying attention to the times when an intuitive hit panned out accurately, for either good or bad. For instance, I remember clearly a time when I had been invited to a friends party across town, but had the impulse not to go. I ignored it. Then, when I was on my way there, everything started going wrong –– I was late because of terrible traffic, I forgot the food I was supposed to bring, there were people at the party who had difficult energy, I got a door ding on my car, and felt so wiped out the next day, I wasn’t good for anything else. I said to Spirit right then and there: “got the message! (Sorry I didn’t heed it sooner!)” I also try to notice when it goes well, like when I feel an intuition to share something with somebody, for example, and it makes a real difference. I don’t keep a tally, but it might be helpful to do so, to keep the focus on when/where you are honoring the connection to spirit you are aware of?
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  3. Sharing. A new thing I just learned for myself today, from lesson 154 in A Course in Miracles, is that I only recognize my connection to Spirit, and the messages I am to give (in order to honor that connection) AFTER I have shared the messages with somebody. Only then can I hear/know it myself.

    No one can receive and understand he has received until he gives. For in the giving is his own acceptance of what he received.” (Pg. 289 in the ACIM Workbook for Students).

    What this means to me is to authentically share myself when I am going through a challenge, or answer a question (like this) as honestly and vulnerably as I can, to show my emotions when I feel them, and to speak the truth as I see it, especially when I have been specifically invited (like in a professional coaching context) but even sometimes when I haven’t been (like on social media).

  4. Self-care. In my experience, it is essential that I am eating properly. For me that means no sugars whatsoever (drastically decreases my mood)), drinking 2+ liters of water every day, getting 8+ hours of sleep every night, limiting my intake of news/external world “reality” and, ideally, 15-20 mins of sunshine every day (for natural vitamin D). When I’m not feeling my connection to Spirit (that flow, and joy, and sense of levity or firing on all cylinders) my self-care routine is the first place I look.

Accept the Turning Point

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I mentioned yesterday that I was watching a video from Abraham-Hicks about the recent US election as a turning point, and sharing the gift of the higher wisdom, bigger picture, and metaphysical perspective of electing Don-the-con, Herr Drumpf, as the current US President. I was moved to watch the video, and soak up it’s message, because I am still having a tough time with the present-day physical world appearances of the situation. But, the video REALLY helped! (Especially the rampage at the end, quoted verbatim below.)

Here are my notes:

You’re not really believing in your own personal power. You keep wanting to come together in groups, because you mistakenly believe that’s where your power is, but that’s not accurate. And, it doesn’t serve you very well, because you can never control the dynamics of the group, and the group is never representing just you. Only you can do that.

“Everyone is personally selfish. You CANNOT see otherwise than through the eyes of self. (AND THAT’S OK, that is how it should be, every person must only be selfish because that is the only thing we have any control of anyway!)

“If someone doesn’t understand that they are creating their own reality, just bobbing along the surface of the ocean of life, every now and then a really good salesperson comes along who is good at influencing that person towards what benefits the salesperson. So, if you are a coal-miner who is not working, your selfish, selfish interest is to be able to work. And that’s understandable, it’s OK to want what you want, even if someone else is trying to tell you that something else is more important than what you need. The challenge is, at that moment, a really good salesperson can be very talented at influencing you to believe that he is the only solution. And not you.

“It’s not necessarily a good thing, but it’s completely understandable that kindness, decorum, open-heartedness, honesty, conflicts of interest, and all other considerations could easily be overlooked in response to the solution to someone’s one selfish need.

“The current outcome is also the bouncing off place for the creation of so much that is so much better.

“Your diversity is your greatest strength. When you are on one side of an issue, the tendency is to think that the people on the other side of the issue are not of any value to the overall bigger picture. But that’s not accurate, all perspectives are adding to the greater whole.

“Whatever it is that you are offering vibrationally is what is coming back to you.

Aside: So, what am I vibrating, if this is what is coming back to me? Could it be wanting vast new progressive, and innovative systems, and the only way to achieve that is to burn down the old first? Could it be a rebirth of love energy, and all the stuff that’s in the way of that has to die off? Could it be participating in a forward-thinking, creative society, and either, this isn’t it, and we will move elsewhere, or it will grow here from the ashes of what had been foundering anyway? Could it be a new enlightenment, a new rebirth of education, thinking, facts? Could it be a shift toward a more spiritual, and metaphysical approach to all of life, held by more people, because that’s the only way out of this mess?  …. As I am thinking in terms of these possibilities, I realize that none of them would be possible at all if the status quo had stayed in place, or if I had “gotten what I wanted” and Hillary had won the election. Uhhhg. Interesting, but uhhhg.

Back to my notes on the video:

When you get into the practice of connecting to your full power, you begin to feel invincible. (Note-to-self, Andrea: Work on mastering that.)

“When you feel invincible, you know that your destiny is of your own making.

“When you are connected to your own power, all that fear leaves you, because you can’t be connected to full power and feel fear at the same time.

“You do not need to look around the world to find, or collect into groups to shore up your insecurity. Because there is no insecurity; insecurity is not real. And that is the the greatest gift of this upheaval-like experience, to prove to you where your real power is. If you can recover from this, and feel more empowered, then what you have really been asking for has been answered.

“The worst thing that can ever happen to you is that you can focus on some arbitrary, bogus external thing, so much so that you temporarily forget your own access to your resources and your own true power.

“All of life is so balanced in terms of diversity, that whomever appears to be in charge, is never really getting in your way that much. No matter who appears to be in control, they are never the source of your true power. They are not ever the Source through which your good comes; they are not the ones who ever give you what you want — peace, joy, freedom, creativity, contribution, meaning.

“…watching what’s soothing and believing they’re on your side for making the world a better place (around the 19:30 minute mark.)

“But you can’t count on anything outside yourself to always make you feel better. And that’s why this result was such a good thing, because you’re going to come away from it with experiential knowing that to live a conditional life is a tough way to live.

“Your true desire is not what you think it is — your desire for kindness, is that now at a higher place than it was before?

Abraham’s Rampage on what we are creating through this experience, what our inner beings’ are focused on:

I want to be happy. I want to feel good. I want to feel lighthearted and uplifted. I want to know that all is well. I want to thrive in my environment, and I want those around me to thrive too….

“I want a safe world. I want a world that those following us in, our children and their children, can feel playful and eager about their life experience. I want more people to feel better, because I want more people to be nicer. I want more people to feel more stable and I want fewer people to feel threatened. I want more humanity. I want softer and gentler. I want things to be better for more people. I want to personally thrive. I want those around me to personally thrive. I want a robust economy. I want to be a part of a robust economy. I want a robust economy. I want everybody who wants to be a part of a robust economy to be a part of a robust economy. I want to make more money. I want to have more freedom. I want to experience more fun. I want to feel my stability. I want to sense the ease in my community. I want there to be more getting along in my house, in my town, in my world. I want to feel better, I want to be happy. I want to feel safer. I want to feel more sure.

“I want to move around the world and to gravitate with others who feel the way I feel. I want to be consciously aware of the way the law of attraction is already matching us up. I want to feel appreciation for everyone, no matter what side of my issues they are on. I want to understand the value that they brought to the equation. I want them to understand that I could not know Who I am, and how much I want this, if they didn’t know who they are, and how much they want that. I want to resonate with the true balance of this time space reality. I want to step back into the understanding that I first had when I eagerly made the decision to come. I want thriving, not just mine but everyones’. I don’t want to be a thriver in an economy that’s weak, I want to be a thriver in an economy where others are thriving too. I want people to step up to who they really are; I want people to come back out into the light. I want the happy-hearted to step forward and be the voices that I am hearing the most of. I want to be such a vibrational match to that myself that law of attraction can only yield mostly that to me. I want to feel good no matter what.

“I want to understand that things are always working out for me, but I don’t want to just say things are always working out for me, and not for you, I want to know that things are always working out “me”s — for ALL of us “me”s.  I don’t just want my happiness, I want the happiness of others. And I don’t want to divvy out my happiness only to those who agree with me on this, or this, or this, I would like happiness to go to all of them. I would like all of them to feel happy, no matter who they voted for. I want all of them empowered, no matter what. I would like everyone to know that things are always working out for all of us. I would like everyone to understand that there’s a greater power, there’s a greater source, that the vortex is more and magnificent, and bigger and more powerful than all of this put together for all of the eons and all of the years, because it has been born out of all these conflicts.

“I want to trust my ability to focus in alignment with who I really a.m. I want to infuse myself with the resources of the non-physical energies. I want to refresh and find the resources that are always offered to me. I want to recognize my own power to hook myself into this current, or to deprive myself of it. I want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and give no one the power. I’m not ever going to say to anyone, and certainly not to myself, that you or anyone has the power to take me outside of this. I believe in the well-being of this time-space reality. I know that there is no regression. I know for sure that there is no going back. I know that whatever we think we just lived through, we put more in the vortex, and we are all better for it. And for that I am appreciative of everyone who contributed, and whatever posture they took that caused all of this to be in the vortex. I now understand that there is more in the vortex to serve the generations to come than has ever been before.

“This particular political election put more there than the last 50 elections have put there. There is more power in the vortex. We have a greater opportunity now to live as peaceful beings on this planet, not just in this nation, then ever before. Because we’ve asked with stronger, more personal fervor. More personal fervor.

“This will all die down. The physical mind does not have the capacity to continually hold yourself against the current of what is natural for you.

“The pull this way, is stronger, for the first time in all of the years that we have been talking to any of you, the pull toward who you are is stronger than your ability to hold it away.”

“This is a turning point. And as more and more of you accept the turning point, and praise everything that brought it about, rather than stand in the attitude of condemnation, then you will begin, immediately, to experience the rewards, the benefit, the blessings, the raining down of what has been in your vortex all along. This is a breakthrough experience for all of you.”

This is a turning point. And as more and more of you accept the turning point, and praise everything that brought it about, rather than stand in the attitude of condemnation, then you will begin, immediately, to experience the rewards, the benefit, the blessings, the raining down of what has been in your vortex all along. This is a breakthrough experience for all of you.